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An Essay Written by Michael About His Family

An Essay Written by Michael About His Family

Unforgettable Qualities
There are many characters in “The Scarlet Letter” that have positive and negative qualities. For example, Chillingworth is a shady and misunderstandable character; this is seen throughout the entire book. Today society is completely different from the Puritans. My family has many excellent traits that help me be the person that I am today.
I would consider my family to be unique and I do not know where I would be without them. Over this past weekend I paid close attention to my family’s qualities, and I noticed numerous things that I never bothered to take to heart before. My entire family is warm-hearted. It consists of a mother and a father that do not fight, a brother that is five years younger than me. My brother Troy has matured so much since he started his first year of high school this September. My parents have been together for 21 years, which is outstanding. There are numerous couples in the current society that fight all the time whose relationship seems to be becoming progressively worse each day. The outcome of a child with divorced parents is usually very upsetting and traumatizing. My mother and father assist my brother and I with several activities throughout each day. I would therefore consider my family to be “traditional”. Every morning I wake up to my father getting dressed for work, my younger brother getting ready for high school, and my mother making breakfast. I know of many of my friends who do not live in similar situations. My parents also make sure that I am awake for school everyday and that I get there on time. My parents are always pushing for me to make the most of my life and would like me to succeed as much as possible. In fact, my parents would like me to be even more successful than they are. My mother and father push me to strive to do my best in school because it will pay off in the future. I know many families who hope and think differently for their children. I wanted my parents to be proud, therefore I enlisted in the army; not only for my parents but for myself as well. My parents are extremely proud and grateful that I am their son, however are they are especially worried as to what my future is going to bring with me being in the army. My mother specifically said to me “I do not mind if you join the army, just as long as you finish college.” As to fulfill my mother’s wish, I am now enrolled at Middlesex County College. I strive and try my hardest to complete my parent’s expectations. I currently live at home and my mother still prepares meals for me contrary to the fact that I am growing older. When I become ill, my parents do everything in their power to try and make me better. They will book a doctor’s appointment for me or tend to me while I am sick in bed.
This past weekend displayed an excellent example of how loving and caring my parents actually are. I was driving to work and I got into an accident. I was unable to drive my car because of the shape it was in. As soon as I called my parents, they came to my assistance and calmed me down. My father called the insurance company and informed them as what happened. Since I am currently without a car, my parents either drive me wherever I need to go or let me borrow their car. My mother and father make sure I have a way to class, work, etc. and I am very grateful for them.
Overall, my family is truly amazing and unique. My parents are always there for me and support my brother and I with every action we take. Although I am growing older, I am aware that my parents will always support and be there for me whenever I need their assistance. I care very much for them and will take care of them for the rest of their lives if needed.We miss you Michael, you are truly amazing and unique....

Our last family picture, Michael’s going away party June 21, 2008.

Spc. Michael L Gonzalez Scholarship at Middlesex County College

Spc. Michael L Gonzalez Scholarship at Middlesex County College

Middlesex County College Scholarship Presentation-2On July 2, 2015, Butterfly Circle of Friends, Vice President, Pedro Gonzalez and President, Ida Gonzalez presented a check to Veronica Clinton of Middlesex County College Foundation to establish the Spc. Michael L Gonzalez Scholarship at Middlesex County College.  The scholarship was established in Michael’s memory and will be for veterans and military personnel. This scholarship is  yearly funded. Butterfly Circle of Friends is currently raising funds to provide an endowment scholarship.

Pictured above Kayleigh Maklary, veteran and MCC Foundation assistant, Pedro Gonzalez, Ida Gonzalez,  Veronica Clinton and Rich Feldman, Coordinator, Veterans Services Center.

Happy Mother’s Day

Happy Mother’s Day


What a better day then Mother’s Day to write my first blog for our website. Butterfly Circle of Friends was created from a mother’s love for her son. Michael was killed in Baghdad, Iraq on August 28, 2008. This makes it the 7th Mother’s Day I spend without one of the greatest joys in my life. Most certainly do not need a special day to remind me how much I enjoy being mother, mommy, mom and Momma Gonzo to many.

Below is a poem that I wrote for Michael in 2010. Since he was my firstborn I probably made the worries bigger then they really were. Until the last, you made me worry, when you went off to a war zone. As his mother, mom and mommy I could not protect him there. I wrote that all the worrying about Michael stopped and it did because the worst possible worry in life  for me as a mother happened, the death of one of my children.

This makes mother’s day and everyday extra challenging but I have made a choice and found the courage to move forward with my life. Always when asked “How many children I have?” Proudly respond “Two” because I will always be Michael’s  mother, mommy and mom.  I am “happy” to be a mother, mommy, and mom.

Michael needs me more then ever now, he needs me to keep him alive in memories.

A Poem For Michael……..

March 16, 2010 at 8:48am

You Made Me Worry…….
by Ida Gonzalez, for Spc Michael L Gonzalez

Out of the corner of my eye I could see them.
Walking up my sidewalk.
Two Military personnel in their dress greens.
I wanted to run and hide.

But all I could do is ask, “What did Michael do?”

All I ever asked “What did you do Michael?”

You made me worry; I would not be a good mommy.
You made me worry, that you would not be healthy.
You made me worry, when you cried.

You made me worry, that you would not do well in school.
You made me worry, when you were not home by dark.

You made me worry, when you learned to drive.
You made me worry when you walked out the door at night.

You made me worry, when you joined the Army.
You made me worry, when you left for boot camp.
You made me worry, when you went to war.

All that worrying…. Stopped!!!

August 28, 2008
I cannot worry about Michael anymore, my faith lets me believe that he is in a better place with no more suffering and no more sorrow. Even if I did not have my faith, the best thing I could do for Michael now is take care of his mother.